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In ‘Other’ Words: Stronger Shoulders

“. . . to refuse to bend our shoulders to carry a load
is to miss a new opportunity for growth.”

~ by J.R. Miller from Streams in the Desert ~



ith some of the things my children have gone through, I often worry how it’s going to affect them. I know post traumatic stress disorder is a real thing, and I don’t minimize by any means.  Some still struggle with things that bring flashbacks, and I know probably always will.  But as my children are growing I see how some of the traumas they have gone through (losing two siblings and going through 3 open heart surgeries with another sibling)  the tenderness that has been brought to their hearts.  A few weeks ago it was on our local news again of a young child dying from the choking game.  One daughter went online and found out more about the family and shared it with me so I could contact the mom.  She genuinely felt for the family, know what we went through six years ago.  Several times our oldest son has come home to tell me about someone who has lost a baby wanting to find a way to encourage.

A few weeks ago I wrote about the loss of a Pastor’s family who lost their home to a fire.  Our daughter who has had three open heart surgeries has had a very special relationship with him through the years.  He baptized her just over a year ago.  He was with our family through some rough times after the loss of our son.  Jessica kept saying “we need to do something . . .  so many did stuff for us”.  She talked to a friend at church and they came up with the idea of a bake sale.  On her own she called the pastor of our church and got permission before I even realized what was going on.  She wanted to sit at the table the entire time on Sunday, both morning and evening.  She was blessed and in awe as some paid $20 for a couple of cookies or a loaf of bread.  Last night she was able to give their family the love gift to them.  I know they were touched . . . and we are grateful for those that gave and helped bake.

I don’t write this to brag on my child . . .  but it’s helped my heart to see how when I have worried about the damage to their emotions and how it’s going to hurt them, I see them helping others towards healing.  None of us want to carry the heavy loads of trials, but God uses it to grow us.

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4

Today’s In Other Words is hosted by Tami on her blog, The Next Step.  Visit her blog to see how others have shared on the quote at the top of this host.  You can join in too!





Beloved KEPT Child of Jesus stumbling by faith ~ Married 33 years ~ Blessed Mama of 10 beside me & 2 at Jesus' feet ~ Homeschool mama of 26 years ~ Writer * Blogger * Reviewer ~

4 thoughts on “In ‘Other’ Words: Stronger Shoulders

  1. It sounds like you are raising some pretty great kids. You and the Lord must be proud of them. God bless you – Marsha Young

  2. Great illustration Loni, a perfect example of God using hard times for growth. Thanks for sharing.

    Hey, you forgot to link up with the rest of us. Give everybody a chance to read this, okay?

  3. Dear Loni, I can connect with your fears. My girls went thru the loss of their brother and then their cousin (both cancer). God has been gracious and the girls both have a deep faith in the Lord. It is a delight to read about your caring children!

  4. Your Daughter is very special Loni. i cried as I read her story. Thanks for sharing this.
    It felt so good to write for IOW this week. I feel like I’ve been away forever LOL. Can’t promise that I’ll be a regular again, but I hope to try to be here more often.
    Bless you!
    Bonnie W.

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